Picking a first date location can be tricky, particularly if you met online or are going on a blind date. Will there be chemistry? Will the venue be quiet enough for conversation? How much money are you willing to spend on an activity with a person you are likely never to see again?
While you may want to impress your date with dinner at a fancy restaurant, you will likely come to regret that big bill when he or she doesn’t answer your call for a second date. And sitting across from someone you have just met for over an hour can also be an awkward experience…especially if it turns out that your online chemistry didn’t make the jump to real life.
Meeting for a drink at a bar can be lower-stakes than a fancy dinner, but bars are often loud, crowded and uncomfortable. Drinking alcohol can also lead to bad decisions you may regret later.
Going to a movie or play is also a bad first date idea because you don’t have the opportunity to talk to one another. Save that type of activity for a later date.
But the absolute worst first date venue? Your place.
Your house makes a lousy first date venue for a number of different reasons. It’s too personal, may send out unintentional signals that could make your date uncomfortable, and also leaves you open to falling victim to online dating robberies.
The hallmark of a successful first online date venue involves meeting for a fun activity in a public place. Never feel the need to accept a date at a person’s house before you are totally comfortable with them, and think twice about inviting someone you just met to your home. They may bring company.
A coffee date or other low-cost activity (walking around the Zoo, perhaps?) tends to be popular choices. It gives you the opportunity to get to know someone without added pressure and at a reasonable or no financial cost.
So remember, leave the tours of Star Wars memorabilia and offers to Netflix and chill until later dates when you are confident your match is interested in you and not your property.