Online Dating Crime Impacts Men, Too

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Online Dating Crime Impacts Men, Too

Justin Lavelle

August 30, 2016

Last month, a Florida man was shot and killed after meeting his online date in person. It turns out she was paid $50 to use a dating site to lure the man to a robbery, which tragically ended in his death.

Adam Hilarie, 27, was a single father who met 18-year-old Hailey Rose Buston on the popular dating site PlentyOfFish. After initially meeting on a date where the two went bowling, Bustos texted him saying, “I had a good time and would like to see you again.” They arranged to meet the next night. That’s when Buston brought three other men to Hilarie’s apartment to rob him. One of the men then shot Hilarie in the head.

According to arrest reports, “Hilarie was begging for his life, he was not putting up any kind of fight, and was telling them that he had a 5-year-old daughter.”

Buston, along with the men she brought to rob Hilarie, were arrested and charged with conspiracy to commit robbery, robbery with a firearm/deadly weapon and first-degree murder.

Contrary to popular notion, women are not the only ones who should be concerned for their safety when dating online. Occasionally, men can be overconfident in online dating situations. They’re more likely to meet a date somewhere private or invite someone to their home without any fear.

But, no matter what your gender, doing this is a big NO.

Situations like the one mentioned can and do happen. Yes, to men, too.

So how can both men and women avoid situations like this?

Do your research. Look at social media profiles, search engine results and run your own personal background check. However, remember that no one method of screening is foolproof.

Always meet your online date in a public setting. This cannot be stressed enough. Your life literally depends on it. Be sure to use your own transportation and tell friends or family members where you’ll be and for how long. Also, do not carry a lot of money on you when meeting someone new.

Never meet your online date at your own or your date’s home. Not even after a first publicly set date. As we can learn from the tragic story above. And never share your address until you truly know someone.

No matter how charming someone seems, be patient and get to know them well. You must know a person very well before moving into any private situations with them.

The prospect of meeting your soulmate can be exciting, but can also lead to impulses getting the best of you. Remember that your intuition serves a very important – even life-saving – purpose.

If you’re new to online dating, take a moment to look at these important tips.

Disclaimer: The above is solely intended for informational purposes and in no way constitutes legal advice or specific recommendations.