How Older Online Daters Can Thrive


How Older Online Daters Can Thrive

December 1, 2017

Good news for older singles: there are others out there who share the same values as you.

A recent study that looked at the profiles of online daters discovered an intriguing insight into how age affects the way that we portray ourselves.

The researchers found that older singles (50 and up) tend to be happy about their existing social connections, but want to expand them. Individuals in this age bracket used more pronouns such as “us” and “we” that emphasized friends and family. In contrast, younger online daters tended to use more first-person pronouns, highlighting work and achievements.

These findings reveal a stark contrast to typical attitudes toward midlife—specifically that aging is not a barrier to seeking romance.

Knowing that there are like-minded singles out there, might you now have the confidence to try online dating?

First, there are a few things you must know:

1. Understand The Prevalence Of Scammers

Online dating scams hit older daters the hardest, according to data. 12 percent admitted to being the victim of a scam, while 35 percent felt misled by someone’s online dating profile. And those are just the ones willing to admit it to Consumer Reports, a publication that posted its findings in its 2016 Online Dating Survey.

Here are a few signs that your match is a scammer:

  • He or she is “out of the country.” International business people and members of the armed services make easy cover stories for scam artists.

  • He or she asks for money. (The request might even come at a made-up sob story). Treat any requests for money as a clear red flag for a scam.

  • He or she expresses love or affection too much, too soon. Anyone wanting to push a relationship forward too fast likely has other – malicious – motivations.

  • Information is not consistent. If the details from one social network to the next is not consistent, consider this a reason for more research before continuing engagement with this person.

Could you be a potential victim? See our post, 7 Traits Of Online Dating Scam Victims

to find out if you possess any of these traits.

2. Trust Your Instinct

How can you trust that this person is whoever he or she claims?

One powerful tool in your possession is your instinct. If at any point your instincts kick into gear and you don’t feel right about something this person is saying, you’re probably right.

Don’t just take your match’s word for it. Ask questions and see how he or she reacts. If this person is having a hard time giving straight answers or provides only vague answers, you might be dealing with a catfish or a disingenuous person.

3. Present Yourself Truthfully

You’re going to have more success with online dating if you be true to yourself.

When you go on your first date “in real life” and your match is expecting to see the person from your profile—but you used a ten-year-old photo of yourself—then you’re probably not going to see a second date in your future.

4. Learn About The Background Of Your Match

Just read our post, Online Dating Catfish Who Steal Hearts, Not Money and you’ll quickly understand why researching your online dating match is so important.

BeenVerified is a tool that can potentially help you learn more about the background of someone you met via online dating. You can potentially verify his or her identity, discover social networks and more.

Your age doesn’t have to be a blockade on the road to romance like you may have thought. We hope you now have confidence and knowledge to safely meet someone special—while avoiding the pitfalls that can come with online dating platforms.

Disclaimer: The above is solely intended for informational purposes and in no way constitutes legal advice or specific recommendations.