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Making New Year’s resolutions is an old tradition that many participate in as January 1 approaches. If you spent the holiday season single, your resolutions might have to do with changing your online dating routine for 2019.
If you’re planning to explore (or re-enter) the world of dating apps, you’re in luck, because early January is the height of online dating season. However, that doesn’t mean you should dive in head-first without a plan. Here are a few online dating resolutions that might help you find what you’re looking for in the new year.
Curb Your Enthusiasm
You may be eager to put yourself out there and get to dating anyone who also swipes right. However, like many other things in life, dating is all about quality over quantity. A good online dating resolution for you could be to date less. Focus on yourself a bit to become a better version of you, which can be more attractive to a potential partner later. Plus, going on fewer dates (with carefully vetted individuals) will prevent dating burn-out.
50 First Second Dates
Not feeling a spark after a first date? Give it another chance. To paraphrase relationship expert James Preece in an interview with Bustle, “dating has become … disposable.” A first date may not be enough to let you know whether that person is relationship material, so give that person a second or third date. Really make an effort to ask good questions and understand your potential partner before you write them off. If your first date didn’t go so well (for one or both of you), a second one might give you each a chance to make a better impression anyway.
Friends With Benefits
What is a relationship other than a friendship with romance? It’s important to make sure you can be friends with your partner before things get serious. A solid foundation of friendship can help the two of you weather the stormy parts of a relationship. Resolve to really get to know a new partner and make sure there’s more than just a fiery attraction. You need to actually like each other, too. A good way to start this process is researching your date to learn a little more about their background.
With online dating becoming the main way people meet potential partners these days, it’s hard to believe that things happen for a reason anymore. If you’re a romantic who believes in chance encounters, you could make a New Year’s resolution to mix up your online dating routine and meet people the old-fashioned way: in person. Who knows — you might even find a better “match” than you could by swiping!
Love (Yourself) Actually
Some people believe you have to love yourself before others will love you, too. Whatever your belief, it can only help to nurture your time with yourself. Spend time doing what you like, rather than catering to what others want. Loving yourself and learning to be alone can make it easier for you to ask for what you need and want in a relationship.