Disclaimer: The below is solely intended for informational purposes and in no way constitutes legal advice or specific recommendations.
Anyone who’s used a dating app or website knows how hard it can be to make meaningful connections there.
It’s difficult enough to create a profile that accurately summarizes who you are and what you want in a partner; it’s even trickier to sort through matches and separate the ones who want romance from those who just want a casual fling.
Like any other goal, choosing the right person to date requires a strategic approach. There are a few tactics that can make you stand out from the sea of profiles and attract the kind of partner you’re looking for. On the flip side, making some rookie mistakes can hurt your chances of finding quality matches – or worse, put you in serious danger.
If you’re hoping to find a lasting relationship through your app of choice, avoid the following common online dating mistakes:
Spending A Lot Of Time Browsing Profiles
While it can be tempting to spend hours swiping through potential matches, relationship experts say that just 30 minutes a day should be sufficient. Jess Carbino, the in-house sociologist at dating app Bumble, told Business Insider that it’s better to spend that time setting up and going on dates to learn more about the people you’ve matched with, rather than mindlessly looking through profiles.
Not Being Upfront About What You Want In Your Profile
Dawoon Kang, cofounder of dating app Coffee Meets Bagel, believes people are often embarrassed to admit they want something serious on their dating profile app. However, if you don’t say what you’re looking for in a partner upfront, you’re much less likely to find someone who wants the same.
“There is, culturally, a trend of ‘caring too much is not cool,'” Kang said in a Business Insider interview. “Cool or not, if that’s what you want, say that, because otherwise how is the other person going to know?”
Agreeing To Meet In Person Right Away
Most dating app users who want to find a connection will spend some time chatting on the platform to see if they’re compatible with a potential match before scheduling a date. Someone who asks to meet you in person immediately based on your profile probably isn’t there for a long-term relationship. At best, they want a one-time hookup; at worst, they may want to scam you or harm you.
Giving Away Too Much Personal Information Over Chat
Common “getting to know you” questions like your full name, birthday, and hometown could give a potential hacker some vital information to commit identity fraud. While most dating app users would likely never think to do this, it’s better to be safe than sorry. Save those types of conversations for your first date, rather than on the app’s chat function, where someone can screen-capture and store the information you give.
Transferring Money To An Online Dating Scammer
If someone you’ve matched with on a dating app asks you for a large sum of money, it’s likely an online dating scam. Fraudsters often start their schemes by forging an emotional connection with a vulnerable dating app user. Once they get the person to fall for them, they convince their lover to transfer money or give access to a bank account, usually for a sick relative or other “dire” circumstance.
It’s important to remain vigilant in situations like this, and watch out for signs of a scam or a catfish. If your match seems too good to be true, or starts demanding money or sensitive personal information from you, just walk away.
Remember, you can always run a public records search on your date to potentially verify their identity and learn more about their background. It’s better to be sure about someone before you get too emotionally invested.