After being held at gunpoint and bound, gagged and robbed of millions of dollars of jewels in her Paris apartment last Fall, Kim Kardashian West realized “there’s [sic] really bad people in this world.”
“Knowing that it’s a possibility that people close to me were involved makes me feel I can’t trust anyone,” the reality star also said.
Can you relate? Trust is delicate. It takes much time to earn and yet can be broken in seconds.
When you meet someone for the first time, oftentimes you’re not truly meeting that person, but rather a representation of themselves that they’ve created. And more often than you might realize, the people we think we know well turn out to hide crazy secrets.
Whether you want to know if you can trust the people close to you, or someone you just meet on a dating site or at the coffee shop, these are the things you need to look for:
Those who are wishy-washy with their values will often be wishy-washy with you, too. Expect broken promises and false hopes with people who can’t stand firm on what they believe.
Of course, it’s important and necessary to grow, evolve and develop our ideas as human beings, but just beware of those who seem to frequently change their values.
Someone who generally does what he or she says will do because it’s important to them, can be a good person to trust.
If someone thinks lying, cheating, stealing or any other obvious sign of a lack of morals, be very cautious in putting your trust in this person.
Morals and integrity tell you a lot about how this person will treat you.
In general, is this person usually right about what he or she claims?
We read reviews online of a restaurant before reserving a table, make sure a contractor does quality work before hiring him or her, so why not confirm the accuracy of what someone says?
How open and willing a person is about explaining his or her past can show you how much you should give this person your trust.
If he or she starts exhibiting the behaviors of a liar, then you know you’re dealing with an untrustworthy person.
Let trust be earned
When someone you don’t know well is asking you questions about you, always question his or her motivation. Is this person just being friendly? Is he trying to manipulate me? What’s her motive?
We highlighted the story of a young woman who was forced to work as a prostitute after letting a man into her life too easily. They sparked up a conversation one day, she gave him her phone number and that night she was pressured into sex trafficking.
Simple truths, difficult at times to accept, are easy to understand: Life lessons are hard, bad habits are tough to break and trust is earned. Keep these tips in mind before handing over your trust to someone – or deciding not to.