In a recent article in the New York Times, journalist Stephanie Rosenbloom sheds light on some fascinating data on the ever-growing world of online dating. The data demonstrates that at least 25% of all relationships these days start online. Of course this data can be dissected in a number of ways, the fact remains, as Facebook’s Andrew T. Fiore says in the NYT article, “As more and more of life happens online, it’s less and less the case that online is a vacuum. It is life.”
The obvious drawback to online dating is the difficulty in verifying dating profiles. According to the article, 81% of dating profiles contain at least one misrepresentation. As Professor Catalina L. Toma says, “Daters lie to meet the expectations of what they think their audience is.” This can be as insignificant as adding ½ inch to your height to something as significant as lying about age by ½ century.
The truth is, you don’t always know what you’re in for. However, that doesn’t mean we should not date online. It does not mean people should take advantage of one of the biggest opportunities ever made available to singles looking to meet their match. What it does mean is that you just need to be smart about it, as you would if you met someone in “real life.”
There’s nothing wrong with being smart and doing your research beforehand. In fact, it would be irresponsible not to. Would you study before a huge test? Would you do research before that big job interview? So, why wouldn’t you use all the public information available before a first date?
Bottom line, it’s up to you to take the first step and do the (easy) background research on your end. There’s nothing wrong with being smart about online dating. In fact, it wouldn’t be smart to not verify the person you’re talking to till the wee hours of the night. If anything, it will probably turn out in your favor.
With that, we wish you luck, success, and a little courage to get over those dating landmines. Happy searching!
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